stilllearning2b – Thank you for this.
“I felt like I was discarded like so much garbage. No longer able to provide utility or beauty. Lacking in key features as I was replaced with a newer model. I trusted this man, had valued his opinions for years. So when he indicated I wasn’t enough, it was easy to believe him.”
Rejection always hurts.
From the lack of an invite to a classmate’s party to the failure of a job offer, we feel the pain of being dismissed.
And when that rejection slip comes from our partner?
Let’s just say the pain is searing. Unescapable.
fMRI results have shown that the agony of rejection follows the same neural pathways as physical pain. It is real. And it can be devastating.
We all have an innate drive to want to be accepted. To be recognized and wanted. As social creatures, we have evolved to need the group and to fear being ostracized.
The worst feeling in the world is not to be seen and hated. It is to be invisible and discarded.
When rejection from relative strangers occurs, we often rationalize the reasons:
“I wasn’t invited to the party because she is a stuck-up snob.”
“They didn’t accept my proposal because they’re…
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